Job Description
By Perminus Wainaina
We don’t talk about it enough.
The uncomfortable reality that sometimes — despite your performance, your effort, and your professionalism — your boss may simply decide you are the problem.
Not because you are.
But because of politics, insecurity, or misalignment.
David (not his real name) learned this the hard way.
At the time, he was a mid-level manager in a fast-growing company. Good performance reviews. Strong relationships with colleagues. A clear growth path.
Then a new boss joined.
And everything changed.
Here is his story — and the lessons every professional needs to understand.
What changed when the new boss came in?
Before he came in, things were stable. I understood my role, my targets, and I had autonomy.
Within two months of his arrival, I could feel the shift.
- My decisions were constantly questioned
- I was excluded from meetings I previously led
- Feedback became vague and negative
At first, I thought I needed to improve.
So I worked harder.
But it didn’t change anything.
When did you realize it was personal?
There was a project I had successfully run for over a year.
Suddenly, I was told I lacked “strategic thinking” — without any clear examples.
Then the project was reassigned.
That’s when it hit me:
This was no longer about performance.
How did it affect you?
It was frustrating.
You start doubting yourself. You overthink everything. You try to prove your worth — but nothing lands.
The worst part is the silence.
No clear accusation. No direct issue. Just a gradual erosion of trust and authority.
What did you do next?
At first, I tried to fix it.
I scheduled meetings to get feedback. I asked for clarity. I documented my work more thoroughly.
But I noticed something important:
The goalposts kept shifting.
That’s when I changed my approach.
What was the turning point?
A mentor told me something that stuck:
“When someone has decided who you are, performance will not save you.”
That’s when I stopped trying to win him over — and started planning my exit.
What steps did you take?
1. I protected myself professionally
I started documenting everything:
- Emails
- Instructions
- Deliverables
- Feedback
Not emotionally — just factually.
This gave me confidence and clarity.
2. I stopped overexposing myself
I reduced unnecessary interactions.
I focused on:
- Delivering my core responsibilities
- Avoiding office politics
- Maintaining professionalism
3. I quietly prepared to leave
I updated my CV — but this time, I was strategic.
Instead of writing a generic CV, I focused on:
- Results and impact
- Leadership and project ownership
- Clear achievements
I also sought guidance from Corporate Staffing Services on packgaging my CV.
Their team helped me:
- Reframe my experience for roles outside my current environment
- Position me for growth, not survival
- Avoid coming across as “escaping a bad boss”
That shift in positioning made a significant difference.
4. I rebuilt my confidence
A difficult boss can distort how you see yourself.
So I intentionally:
- Reconnected with mentors
- Reflected on past wins
- Spoke to people outside my workplace
I needed to remind myself who I was — outside that environment.
How did it end?
I got another role within 3 months.
Better environment. Better leadership. Better pay.
Ironically, in my new role, I was told:
“You’re exactly what we were looking for.”
That’s when it fully clicked.
The problem was never me.
Top Lessons for Professionals
1. Not every problem is a performance problem
Sometimes, it’s about:
- Personality clashes
- Leadership insecurity
- Internal politics
Don’t internalize everything.
2. If the goalposts keep moving, pay attention
Feedback should guide you — not confuse you.
If expectations are constantly shifting, it may not be about improvement.
3. Documentation is your safety net
Always keep a record of:
- Instructions
- Feedback
- Deliverables
Not for conflict — but for clarity and protection.
4. Don’t fight battles you cannot win
Trying to “prove yourself” to someone who has already made up their mind will drain you.
Redirect that energy into your next move.
5. Your environment shapes your confidence
A toxic boss can make a high performer feel inadequate.
A healthy environment will remind you of your value.
6. Positioning matters — especially when leaving a difficult situation
When job searching, how you present your experience matters.
It’s not about saying:
“I had a bad boss.”
It’s about showing:
- What you delivered
- What you learned
- Where you are going
This is where many professionals get it wrong — and why expert guidance can make a big difference.
Final Advice from David
“If you feel like your boss is out to get you, step back and assess the situation honestly. Improve where you need to — but also recognize when it’s no longer about you. And when that happens, focus on your exit, not on proving a point.”
Difficult bosses are part of many career journeys.
But they don’t have to define your trajectory.
Handled well, they can become the push that moves you into a better role, a healthier environment, and a clearer sense of direction.
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